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A dear friend of mine wrote the following on her Facebook page:

Forgive the self as well.

Ms. Gloria hit the nail on the head.  Forgiveness isn’t about anyone other than the self and more often than not, the person needing the forgiveness isn’t even the one who has done the wrong.  Forgiveness is about moving on into health and wellness.  It’s about leaving the negative experience behind and looking forward to a new day.  But there is invariably one small problem with forgiveness: we forget to forgive ourselves.

We are always hardest on ourselves, often reverting to self destruction over the simplest of issues.  We usually find it easy to forgive those around us, and by doing so can place ourselves right back in the same situation, unless…

…Unless we are willing to face ourselves and forgive ourselves for allowing another person or event to take our power away from us, or for allowing ourselves to become muddled and carried away by events.  We need to begin the forgiveness process by forgiving ourselves.

Sometimes we don’t need to forgive ourselves at all, but part of the forgiveness process is also letting go of what ever it is that wronged us.  I don’t necessarily mean letting go as in getting rid of, but letting go as in releasing the emotional attachment to the event of wrong doing, and yes, sometimes letting go as in getting rid of, is appropriate.  Only you can make that determination.

What ever you do, healing begins with the self.  Allow yourself to forgive both yourself, and that which has wronged you, then let go of the event and move into peace.

May your path be filled with forgiveness.

K

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